When kids make mistakes, we feel so frustrated and usually say something like:
‘I TOLD YOU THIS WOULD HAPPEN!’
‘WHY DON’T YOU LISTEN TO ME?’
‘NOW LOOK WHAT YOU’VE DONE. YOU ARE SO XXXX’ (FILL IN THE BLANKS)
So how should we respond?
They have to learn don’t they?
I often think about how I respond when I make a mistake. Sometimes I get defensive and try to blame someone else – my husband usually (!).
Sometimes I feel such shame and frustration about the mistake that I just don’t know what to do.
Other times I dig my heels in and refuse to even acknowledge that it is a mistake.
What we all really want to do is to accept we made a mistake, learn from it and move on.
This process isn’t an easy one though.
From my many years as a parent and from studying and working in the field of parenting, I know that how we handle our kids mistakes is absolutely crucial to a child’s healthy...