We were really happy when Felix, our second child came along. Nico was so sweet with him.
He wanted to hold him, stroke him, show him off.
We felt like we’d done it all right.
That we'd produced a lovely playmate for him.
We felt that because we’d been so positive about the baby’s arrival that we’d avoided the kind of jealousy that we had heard about.
Felix was about 7 or 8 months old and Nico seemed to sprout horns.
This loving brother would snatch away the baby’s rattle. He’d say ‘That’s mine you can’t have it'
He’d shout in his face ‘Be quiet baby Felix’
He’d pinch his arm or hit him and say ‘He’s stupid’
We were mortified and so worried that our sweet kind toddler was turning into a really nasty little boy.
So how do you deal with all this? Here are the lessons I learned and some of them I wish I’d known at the time so I could...