I remember my parenting coach telling me that it wasn't my job to make my child happy and I felt really shocked by that.
What's the point in having kids if we don't want them to have a happy life?
If you want to raise a well-rounded, emotionally well-balanced child then you’ll want to read on.
Actually as a mother of small children there were many times I didn't feel happy at all, but that was mostly when I found myself nagging and often shouting because I didn't have the right parenting tools at the time.
So happiness - why shouldn't we want our kids to be really happy, as much as we possibly can?
Of course we want them to be happy but we also need our kids to be able to cope with disappointment and be able to bounce back.
So that’s why I had the courage to stick to my guns when my three year old changed her mind about the ice cream.
So here is the scene.
‘What kind of ice cream would you like darling?’
‘Are you positive you...
I was listening to a great podcast today - I highly recommend it - by Erin Royer and is called Your Village, Parenting Beyond Discipline.
I wanted to tell you about something Erin suggested - it's especially helpful if you have a child who is prone to emotional outburst but it could be lovely for any child.
I so wish I'd known about this when my children. I think they would have all benefitted from it at some point.
So she recommends having a 'cosy space' or 'calm corner' that you can gently take your child to if they are becoming overwhelmed and starting to lose it. Here are some ways to make your space