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Camilla shares her insights and parenting wisdom.

“Just do what I say!” following instructions Nov 10, 2020

“No one else’s child behaves as badly as mine”

 Have you ever felt that?

You imagine other households and think that their children sit at the table and eat their food without a fuss.

- They don’t run in the opposite direction when it is time to wash their hands.

-...

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Is time-out better than the naughty step? alternative to naughty step gentle parenting getting a child to say sorry managing a difficult child managing misbehaviour naughty step positive disciplne time out or naughty step? Nov 04, 2020

 

So is ‘Time-out’ any better than the ‘Naughty step’? 

Firstly, I am against the naughty step for a number of reasons –

It gives the child the label ‘naughty’ and kids live up to a negative label. Even if you describe it as ‘naughty...

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I hate you right now! tips for a harmonious relationship Oct 27, 2020

It is so easy to get into petty squabbles that turn into full blown fights and before we know it, it can get nasty.

My husband Paul and I have been married 24 years – I know, that seems like a lifetime!

We’ve navigated four children through years of breastfeeding, nappy changing,...

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What happened to Ed and Jenna client stories Oct 22, 2020

In this week’s blog I’m going to tell you about my clients Jenna and Ed who did my Tailored Support Package private sessions with me. It is such privilege to do the work. Every client is special to me and I get such pleasure from helping them transform their family life.

 

Jenna...

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10 ways to increase your child's self-belief raising a child's self-belief Oct 14, 2020

I just heard the inspirational speaker James Shone who founded 'I can and I am' a charity that inspires children (and adults) to focus on what they can do, not on their weaknesses.   James was inspired by the psychologist Carole Dwek who writes extensively about growth...

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How do I deal with poo problems? child won't poo childhood constipation constipated child constipation and withholding holding onto poo poo problems potty refusal refusing to poo on the potty withholding poo won't use a potty Oct 09, 2020

As a potty training consultant, one of the questions I get asked the most from frustrated parents is "why can't I get my child to poo on the potty?'

I was in this position many years ago with my second child and it drove my husband and me to distraction.

We took a very long time to...

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Guess how much I love you? Oct 07, 2020

                              

Do you ever read the book 'Guess how much I love you?' - we used to read it a lot to our kids. It's such a beautiful story.

Kids thrive on predictability and rituals - which is why...

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Getting a meaningful sorry from a reluctant child saying sorry Sep 30, 2020

Have you been in the situation where your child digs their heels in and refuses to say sorry?

This situation is usually worse when it is in front of another parent, a grandparent or worse still a teacher. 

You get a refusal or they say 'sorrreeeee', with no meaning in it at all. This feels...

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I wanted to make him cry guilt and shame Sep 23, 2020

I talked in last week’s blog about the guilt we feel as parents.

What I didn’t mention is the tactic we so often use which is to try to make our kids feel guilt or shame. Wanting to make our kids feel bad for what they’ve done. We even want to make them cry to ensure they've...

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I always feel so guilty mum guilt Sep 16, 2020

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So many parents find themselves consumed by guilt. They often tell me they've felt guilty from pregnancy onwards 'Should I have had the odd glass of wine and soft cheese? Is that why my toddler is so aggressive?'

Do you find the minute you add ‘Should’ you back yourself...

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Helping kids handle mistakes helping kids handle mistakes Sep 08, 2020

When kids make mistakes, we feel so frustrated and usually say something like:

‘I TOLD YOU THIS WOULD HAPPEN!’

‘WHY DON’T YOU LISTEN TO ME?’

‘NOW LOOK WHAT YOU’VE DONE.  YOU ARE SO XXXX’ (FILL IN THE BLANKS)

So how should we respond?

They have...

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Don't leave me mummy! Sep 02, 2020

Our children have gone through so many changes in the past few months I regularly hear about parents experiencing kids being much more anxious than normal or having unexpected melt-downs and tantrums.

Children are sponges for the world around them. They pick up on everything – the positive...

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