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Uncategorized Sep 02, 2020

Our children have gone through so many changes in the past few months I regularly hear about parents experiencing kids being much more anxious than normal or having unexpected melt-downs and tantrums.

Children are sponges for the world around them. They pick up on everything – the positive and the negative and things will increase their levels of anxiety that we may not have realised.  One example is they are seeing so many people wearing masks and that is scary for them. They can’t identify who is behind the mask. So a child starting at a new environment - even if it is the loveliest place - might cause them to be more anxious that you expected. 

Do you have a child who clings to you when you drop them off at school?

Teachers will tell you that they usually settle within a few minutes of you going but that doesn’t mean it isn’t so hard to witness.

So here are some great ways to reduce the anxiety of separating from you.

  • Prepare them emotionally...
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10 top tips for Mellow Mornings

Uncategorized Sep 02, 2020

So many parents tell me that mornings are one of the most stressful parts of the day.

If you regularly find yourself losing your temper, resorting to threats, bribes, nagging and shouting and want to take some positive steps in the right direction, read on for easy-to-action solutions for mellow mornings .


My Parenting Solutions 10 top tips for mellow mornings:

  1. Plan as much as possible ahead of time.
    • Lay out everything you need for breakfast
    • Find the shoes and coats you need the night before
    • Pack the bags the night before – drink, change of clothes, nappies,
    • Have toothbrushes/hairbrushes close to the kitchen.
  2. Getting a child dressed is usually a tough one. Have them pick from a choice of two outfits the night before and lay them out on the floor in a body shape.
  3. Have them get dressed in the bathroom to minimise distractions – I recommend getting dressed before breakfast and use a good bib at breakfast time.
  4. Avoid screens in the morning – or at least...
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I learnt the hard way

Uncategorized Aug 04, 2020

As a mother of a baby and toddler I was so determined to get it right and to feel like I could cope. 

I don’t know about you but in my struggle to keep going I was slowly running myself in the ground.

When baby no. 2 was 9 months old, I came down with a vicious bug that knocked me for six. This was many years ago, before the terrible Covid 19 that is so devastating to our world, but it wiped me out. For 7 straight days straight I was so weak and feverish that I could barely make it to the bathroom. My husband was away at the time and I had to call on anyone I knew to help me. It took me a long time to regain my strength.  I realised that I couldn’t risk feeling like that again.

So the lesson I learnt was that making health a priority is essential for good parenting. It isn’t an ‘Oh yeah – no chance of that’ kind of thing.

It is Vital. 

Because if we collapse, everything will collapse around us.

So from doing my research, practicing...

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How to be gentle and also firm

Uncategorized Jul 29, 2020

I used to really wrangle with the whole concept that scolding or telling off my kids wasn’t going to help improve behaviour. 

This doesn’t mean to say that we can’t be firm or have boundaries. They really need boundaries. It is just how we deal with misbehaviour that makes a huge difference. 

If we address the feelings behind behaviour, then we can start to steer them towards taking responsibility. 
This is easier said than done and of course I tell my kids off – my teenagers fail to clean the kitchen to my standard and I get really cross about it. However, I get more out of them if I praise them for what they have done, rather than nag them about what they haven’t done. It really helps if I make it absolutely clear what I want done and why and also if I let go of expecting perfection.  None of that needs to involve telling them off.  

Here are 10 good things to know,

  1. When a child is being difficult, they feel out of...
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The 10 Point Plan to Prepare for Success

Uncategorized Jul 21, 2020

Being a parent is the hardest job in the world. That is an absolute fact and it is the only job for which we receive no training.  How mad is that?  One way to help is to have a plan to follow so I hope you like this easy-to-follow 10 steps.

My Parenting Solutions 10 point plan to  Prepare for Success

  1. Make a list of all the times that things can turn into chaos – leaving the park, getting ready to leave the house, leaving a playdate, getting out of the bath, getting ready for bed. All those horrible hot spots that leave you feeling frazzled.

  2. Pick the one you find the most stressful and make time to talk to your child beforehand (not during the event).

  3. Get a pen and paper ready and sit down with them – this makes it seem so official. Even a young toddler responds well to how serious it is when you are writing things down.

  4. Set the scene for your child: ‘Tomorrow we are going to the playground. When it is time to leave the playground, you...
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How to raise a child's self-esteem

Uncategorized Jul 15, 2020



Children are born with different temperaments, some are more robust than others but there is a huge amount we can do to ensure even the most sensitive of kids REALLY believe in themselves.

Here are three great ways to raise your child's self-esteem

So what can we do?

  1. Modelling is crucial in all aspects of parenting so if we are suffering from low self-esteem in any way it is so important to get help and support. Some of this is by changing our mindset (there are some great books and podcasts about this), other ways are from working with a coach or therapist or putting in place simple daily practices like writing down 5 things you did well that day. Our children are sponges for us.  They of course have their own temperaments and some are more sensitive than others so we have to adapt our parenting style to suit the temperament of each child. Encourage your child to write down what they did well too.
  2. We need to validate and accept our children’s feelings and...
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The My Parenting Solution Courage and Kindness List

Uncategorized Jul 09, 2020


  1. Reflect daily on the things that have worked and make a note of the positives

  2. Remind yourself that it’s okay to pause

  3. Smile. Even if it’s one that feels pasted on at first. Studies show that the simple physical action of moving our mouths into the smile position, sends messages to our brain that make our bodies feel safer and more relaxed. It’s an instant pick-me-up.

  4. If there’s a conversation or interaction that has upset you, try addressing it with ‘When you said xx, I felt yy’. It turns down the blame is a proactive way of clearing the air.

  5. Set yourself a physical challenge – like running a little bit further than your usual distance

  6. Take some time out (even just 10 minutes). Remember that by doing so, you’ll be able parent better

  7. Do something that takes you out...

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It felt like it would never end

Uncategorized Jul 07, 2020

My heart goes out to parents of young children navigating the pandemic.

Getting through an incredibly stressful period draws on every ounce of strength. It reminds me of a stage in my life many years ago;

 I’d had a toddler and had just endured 9 months of a baby with colic and reflux who screamed most of the day and night.

Once afternoon I lay on the floor and I begged my toddler to let me shut my eyes just for 5 minutes.

If only I could get five minutes sleep then maybe I would be able to recharge my batteries that had been flat for so long. I’m sure you know that feeling.

Less than 3 minutes had gone past before I heard a terrible crash. My toddler had tried to climb onto the table by tugging the table cloth which pulled off the water jug and it smashed all over the floor. That woke the baby who had finally gone to sleep in his pram.

A broken jug isn’t the end of the world but I screamed at Nico

‘What an earth are you doing?’

Some kids cry when...

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Want To Feel More In Charge?

Uncategorized Jul 01, 2020

Way back in 1999 when I first got help with for parenting my unruly toddler, the coach asked ‘Does your son know who is in charge?’.  My husband and I laughed ‘Er, no, he runs rings around us.’.  He used to shout things like ‘I’m the boss’ when we went to switch off the TV or tried to get him to do something he didn’t want to do.

Want to know why this isn’t a good idea?

Children get their security from boundaries and predictability. They need us to steer the ship.

So how can we do that without turning into a sergeant major? Like us back then, maybe you are afraid of being too authoritarian so you swing the pendulum to being too lenient?


Here are my 10 top tips for feeling more in charge:

  1. Start with one or two of your ‘hot spot’ areas and decide on exactly what you want to have happen. So for example – do you want your child to help tidy up his toys without a fuss and not run off as soon as it...
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That time my heart stopped

Uncategorized Jun 30, 2020

My eldest son is almost 23.

He’s 6”1’ and as kind and gentle a son as I could wish for.

You should see him with animals. He’s so sweet and caring with them.

This feels like long way from back when he was little. 

One Saturday morning still stays in my mind.

We were off on a family trip to the farmers market.

His baby brother Felix was sitting on the mat with a rattle while Paul and I ran around gathering all the bits you need to go out - you know the score;

Nappy bag

Buggy (Stroller)

Shopping bags


Car keys

Nico had been antsy all week.

Nothing was quite right and he seemed to be over-reacting to everything.

He told me he hated my food, he refused to put his shoes on to leave the house, he shouted loudly in my face ‘Go AWAY’ when I wanted him to get dressed. 

I had an argument going on in my head about how to deal with him.

-"You can’t let a child get away with it. Show who is boss and put a stop to this nonsense"

- Vs "Bad...

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